Lesson #2: Listening is Hard. Seriously. It is hard. I learned this week that listening is harder than working out every day. Listening requires silence, patience and an absence of judgement or conclusion. Listening is taking in the words that are spoken to you, repeating them back to the speaker to confirm your understanding of them and then……SILENCE. Yes, silence. No opinion, no comment and no feedback. That is why it is called listening. Not only does this apply in marriage and work, I believe it applies to our relationship with God. How many times do we really stop and listen? Silence is painful. It is listening. Are you listening?
Lesson #3: Tears are Good. Yeah. It is true. Sometimes you just reach the end of the rope, the bottom rung or the last step. There are no answers, no excuses and no remedies. Just tears. As the overwhelming reality of your situation comes to light and you realize that all of your worst fears have just come to fruition; all you can do is cry. It is pretty amazing what that release of emotion can do for you. It can reset the clock and restart the situation. There is no shame in hitting bottom, feeling those tears and reaching for that higher power. It can take this process to take the next steps forward, a realization of where you are and that we are all just mud in His hands. It is ok to be humble, broken and meek. This is the state that you are most pliable and are of most value. Be broken. Be humble. Be pliable.
Those are three lessons I learned this week. It reminded me of a scripture in the Bible. “These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith--of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire--may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.” (1 Peter 1:7, NIV) Wow! How amazing. It was definitely a period of being tried by the fire. What we do with the trial determines our ultimate success. What happens to you when you are tried and challenged? Are you burning up in the fire or are you coming out as gold? That is the test and the trial. As the saying goes, “that which does not kill us, makes us stronger”. If you are going through a tough time, remember these 3 things that I learned the importance of this week,
(1) maintain composure, (2) listen and (3) be humble.Leadership demands it.
Wesley Middleton is the managing partner at MRZ LLP, a Houston, Texas-based accounting firm voted Best Place to Work by the Houston Business Journal. Wesley is the author of Violent Leadership (Forbes Books, 2017) and is represented by PumpJack Speakers Bureau. To book Wesley for your event, email Wesley.Middleton@PumpJack.me or click here.